My parents and grandparents were pressuring me for years to get married. During any phone call, inevitably the conversation would turn to the question: "When are you going to get married Bob? Why aren't you dating? Why can't you find a nice girl and settle down? When are you going to get married Bob?" At 40 years old, I wanted to get married. I wanted to find the perfect gal to spend the rest of our lives together. I just didn't think about it as much as my parents and grandparents did. Yes, I wanted marriage but I was still happy as a single man. I had nice girlfriends over the years and many good memories, but nothing seemed to click. There was always something that just wasn't right about the girls I was dating. Heck - maybe it wasn't them... maybe it was me! No doubt, at my age the pressure was on. So I stopped going to bars and started using a Jewish dating service in hopes of finding that perfect woman. I spoke with numerous gals who were also in the same boat as me. I was getting too old to never have been married and desperately looking for a mate. That's where I met Erica. She was a successful woman in her late thirties that was seeking a good man to "get married and have kids right-away!" It seemed perfect! I would be happy and of course my parents and grandparents would be thrilled! Not only was I dating.... but I was dating a nice Jewish girl. Perfect! Or so I thought. It was a whirl-wind romance. Everything went so quickly. Erica talked about having children by the second date. This did not scare me at the time because I wanted to be a dad. Her "clock was ticking" and nothing in life was more important to her than having children. We were engaged within 30 days and Erica was pregnant before we walked down the aisle 2 months later. Our marriage was rocky from the start. The problem was... we did not know each other. Here I am married to a woman I barely knew and she was pregnant with my child! You guessed it. Each week that went by I started to realize that not only did I not really know Erica, but I didn't even like Erica as a person! After meeting her, my parents and family did not like her either. She was aloof and hard to get to know. She expected everything from me and offered nothing in return. Now, here I am. Married with two children to the most unbearable wife a man could only think of in a nightmare. What's the moral to the story you ask? That's easy. NEVER get married for the sake of getting married. NEVER get married because someone else thinks you should. Always get to know the person before you make that big step. If you don't... you run the risk ruining your life! Or the next twenty years of it. Yours sincerely, Rob Miller is a freelance writer that knows all about rushing into something. Slow and steady wins the race. Marriage should not be rushed. Rob is also a product reviewer for Gunther Gifts, http://gunthergifts.com, an engraving firm that engraves personalized gifts for birthdays, groomsmen, anniversaries, corporate awards, graduations and more. Wedding favors, groomsmen gifts, bridesmaid gifts, Leatherman tools, Swiss Army knives, Zippo lighters, personalized baseballs and bats, license plate frames, cigar holders, jewelry boxes and so many other gifts are available for engraving. Source: www.articlesphere.com
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